Thursday, September 26, 2013

"Enough Violence" opens this Friday night at The Society for Contemporary Craft in Pittsburgh. It is a subject that is near and dear to my heart... I am looking forward to seeing the show. I will be there for the opening, and for the "meet the artists" session on Saturday afternoon from 1-3. 

"Fiber Optics", a large-scale exhibition of contemporary textile work opened last Friday at 1310 Gallery in Fort Lauderdale.

I am so thankful to be this busy.... starting to feel like my job is being a professional booking agent for my work!

Saturday, September 21, 2013

The Gazette and The Washington Post both reviewed The Trawick Prize Finalist Show, and had some wonderful things to say about my work!

Here are two new silverpoint spoons, Tempest IV and Tempest V.... they are likely going to be the last spoons I do, though I may do another ladle or two, I like getting lost in the floods.

I am teaching a painting class this semester, and I am unpacking the oil paint that I have not touched for 5 years, and setting it up to start painting again in my own studio. Here is an in-progress glazing demo I am doing for class, a circular painting of my sleeping daughter.

"Fiber Optics" opens tonight in Fort Lauderdale!

Tuesday, September 10, 2013

Radley Kretz, a.k.a. “The Goob”
April 15, 2003 – July 23, 2013

I waited my whole life to get a dog. I grew up in a dogless house; when I was old enough, I used to visit dog parks and dream about the day that I would have one of my own.  I knew I would name him Radley, for "To Kill A Mockingbird” character Boo Radley. I think I even practiced calling his name, out loud, to the air, when I imagined what life would be like when I finally brought him home. I had my heart set on a Boxer…. large, bumbly dogs that remain puppy-like their entire lives.

Once I got tenure, I knew it was time. Like any good academic, I bought and read 5 books on training dogs before I picked him up. I was a neurotic, first-time dog Mom, calling up friends anytime I had a question.

I had spent most of my life avoiding any commitments, and when I decided to begin my own family, he was the first one I chose. For a long time, it was just the two of us: he would ride shotgun on road trips, stay with me all day in the studio, and slept curled up in my behind-the-knee nook each night.

Radley pointed me the man I married. I had been with another man for four years, one I was madly in love with, but my increasing desire to have a child was not one that he shared. The on-again, off-again breakup was difficult, and even long after we separated, he was the one who drove me across the state to pick up Radley, knowing how long I had waited to get a dog, and wanting to share the excitement with me.  The Goob rode across Florida in my lap while S drove. 

A few weeks later, I talked to S on the phone, and relayed that crate training was going well, but Radley had just had an accident on the carpet. “Good luck with that…” he replied dryly, before he said good night and hung up. A few weeks later, after I started dating my future husband, it happened a second time. “I have a carpet steamer… we can take care of that, no problem!” was his response. Clearly, a keeper.
Radley was a good dog, one who never rolled in anything smelly, never chewed any shoes, only got into the garbage once, and always went to his “place” when told. He acted like a puppy until a few days before his death: he was so relentlessly happy and enthusiastic, it was always hard to tell when he was sick. He used to love to stand up on his hind legs, his paws on my shoulders, and dance with me. When he gave kisses, it would always be one quick little lick, at the bottom of your nose. We would tease him by whining like a dog, and he would cry in empathy. His mouth made an "O" when he howled, “roooo-rooo-rooo” whenever he heard an ambulance. Both my husband and I used to fake him out by saying “Where’s Kate?” or “Where’s Kevin?” when the other was other gone, to send him dashing to the door, looking to and fro for the missing parent. He had a huge personality: it inspired me to make up at least 5 songs about him, I used to sing them to get that tail going. Ironically, my daughter had just started singing the Radley songs, insisting that we make up songs for the other family members as well. 

 I am still bursting into tears a few times a day, even 6 weeks later. The relationship I had with this dog was more constant and physical than any other relationship in my life. I work from home 5-7 days a week, and he was always by my side. He lived in my studio with me. 
If I sewed, he was there:

When I stretched a canvas, he helped:

When I got a scaffold, he watched me from his studio couch:
If I lived with a man who was literally with me 24 hours a day, leaning against me, wanting constant contact, he would be shown the door pretty quickly. Much like one misses the physical details of a lover, I find myself missing parts of him…. his round little fuzzy chin, his expressive eyes, his stubby tail wagging back and forth at 200 RPM. I long to scritch behind both of his ears simultaneously… it is a gesture that is indelibly burned into my nervous system.

Through the tremendous personal difficulties of the past five years, Radley was constant, likely happier than ever that we went from living in a 4,000 sq foot house to being tightly packed in a small two-bedroom apartment with 2 grown-ups, a newborn baby, and a cat. Through several moves, 5 months of six-hour drives (with a newborn) every weekend to NC to pack up a house, and yelling at him because he was underfoot in the tiny apartment, he was just happy to be with us.

And now, since we had to put him down, he is teaching me again. I have always been a workaholic, but my life before the recession–based-shit-hit-the-fan was one where I fluidly moved from working on furniture projects for the house, to sewing something awesome for myself or my niece to wear, to “real” art projects and back again. I was blissfully happy, and I knew that each thing fed the other and opened up new possibilities. But once my husband was laid off from Labcorp two weeks after I became pregnant, I gave that life up, and have been living in “survival mode” since. Five years of relentless pressure put me close to a breaking point: I slept less, worked up to three jobs at a time, was a mother to my daughter, and every spare minute I had was spent working on my art & art career. I have always been driven, but I was determined that I was not going to “disappear” once I had a baby, despite the fact that our circumstances had changed dramatically for the worse. When we finally moved into our present house, other than preparing a nursery for a now-one-year-old daughter, I decided that there was no time to paint rooms, work on the lamp, or paint the couch the way I imagined it in my head, even though it pained me every single time I walked into my living room, seeing only the gap between my vision and the reality.

Six weeks ago, after we put my sweet puppy into the ground, for the first time in my life, I was incapacitated. I have made work through a major breakdown in my 30's and through various episodes of depression and anxiety over the course of my life. When my father was in hospice this past Spring, I sat by his bed, playing music and movies he loved, while working on a hair embroidery. But, this time, I could not bear to go into the studio without my companion. I spent about two days sleeping and crying after the hour of buoyancy required to get my daughter off to daycare.  I watched a movie or two. People gave me permission to be kind to myself. I decided that it was finally time to paint the lamp and the couch. For several weeks I devoted myself to making beautiful things, things that were NOT going to be immediately shipped off to a gallery or an art fair the minute they were made, but objects that would give me joy EVERY SINGLE DAY by sharing my space…. just like Radley.

This was a life lesson that I needed to be reminded of, and it would not have happened without the tragedy of Radley’s death.  He has shown me the path out of a very bad rut.

I have never had much use for organized religion: I don’t know what I believe about the afterlife, but I finally understand a bit more about why religion seems to be a necessity for many people, and why we have developed platitudes about death. This year was the first time I have lost beings that I was really close to: it changes you in dramatic ways. I want so desperately to believe that I will see Radley and my father again, and that they are happy now. I understand what people mean when they say, “He will live on in your heart…”, because he does, right next to the hole that his death created. I am shocked to find that my mentality has been reverting to that of a five-year-old. A few weeks back, it was raining really hard, and I wept because, three feet under the ground, he was getting wet in the backyard. He didn’t like to be wet; he loved coming in from the rain and being toweled off, ferociously. In my worst moments, I make angry demands of the universe, screaming to no one in particular, “I want him BACK! He’s MY dog, and I want him BACK!”  

Wednesday, September 04, 2013

This Friday, The Trawick prize winners will be announced. Lenny Campello gave me a vote of confidence in his blog recently, as he mused about who might win this year. I'm just trying not to think about it too much and move forward, working on more grant applications, a number of projects for the house, framing my newest hair pieces, and getting ready to set up an oil painting studio after a 5 year hiatus. Been framing and shipping work all over creation for shows opening in the next few weeks:

The Trawick Prize: Bethesda Contemporary Art Awards Exhibit
Gallery B, Bethesda, MD
Sept 4-28, 2013

Curated by Amanda Cooper
Morean Arts Center, St. Petersburg, FL
Sept 14 - Oct 27, 2013

Fiber Optics
Curated by Lisa Rockford
1310 Gallery
Fort Lauderdale, FL
Sept 21 - October 11, 2013

ENOUGH Violence: Artists Speak Out
Curated by Kate Lydon
Society for Contemporary Craft, Pittsburgh, PA
Society for Contemporary Craft

Sept 27, 2013 - Mar 22, 2013

Fiberart International 2013
San Jose Museum of Quilts & Textiles, San Jose, CA
November 6, 2013 - January 19, 2014

Curated by Twig Murray
The Athenaeum, Alexandria, VA
Oct 24 - Dec 8, 2013

I will be present at the two Trawick openings, and possibly the Society for Contemporary Craft show in Pittsburgh. Keep your fingers crossed for me on Friday the 6th.... no one except those close to me know how dramatically this prize would change my life.